The Shidduch "Catastrophe": A letter to the Editor of Mishpacha Magazine that was declined for publication
To the Editor of Mishpacha Magazine: Dear Sir or Madam I read the article by Shlomo Yehuda Rechnitz entitled “ There IS no Shidduch Crisis ” in your August 6 edition with great interest. I want to thank him, and you, for devoting so much attention to this very serious issue. Upon reflection, I would like to make the following observations, some of which differ with Mr. Rechnitz. I base myself on my experience of having been, ב " ה , “ in the Parsha ” and married three children in the past two years, and from what I hear as a Rav and a member of the community. To begin with, let me summarize what I feel are the main points of Rechnitz ’ presentation : Too few of the young women are married by age 21. It is not a crisis, but a “ catastrophe ” that, for example in Los Angeles, only 13 of 72 girls of a high school graduating class were engaged or married by age 21-22. Furthermore, “ Any change should not have to come from the girls ” , as the risk to t...