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Wednesday, March 25, 2020

Sanzer Rebbe: Anger and Tension in the home is worse than Chametz

(Translator’s note: The following are remarks delivered last week by the Klauseberg-Sanzer Rebbe in Netanya, Admor Tzvi Elimelech Halberstam שליט"א.   I thought it important to make these important words available to the English speaking world.)




He began by citing the verse in Yeshayahu (26:20-21):


לֵךְ עַמִּי בֹּא בַחֲדָרֶיךָ וּסְגֹר דְּלָתְךָ בַּעֲדֶךָ חֲבִי כִמְעַט רֶגַע עַד יַעֲבָר זָעַם. כִּי הִנֵּה ה' יֹצֵא מִמְּקוֹמוֹ לִפְקֹד עֲו‍ֹן יֹשֵׁב הָאָרֶץ עָלָיו וְגִלְּתָה הָאָרֶץ אֶת דָּמֶיהָ וְלֹא תְכַסֶּה עוֹד עַל הֲרוּגֶיהָ

Go, my people, enter your chambers and lock your doors behind you. Hide but a short while, until the anger passes.  For Hashem shall come forth from His place ao punish the dwellers of the earth for their sins, and the earth shall disclose its bloodshed and shall no longer conceal its slain.

There will come a time that there will be a judgment in the world directed against the enemies of Israel; what will be required of the Jewish people is to go into a room, close the door, and await the end of the process.

The destroyer of the Second Bais HaMikdash was the evil Titus, who tortured and slaughtered untold numbers. At the same time, he defiled and then burnt the Holy Temple.  The Gemara in Gittin 56b relates that he was punished by a tiny creature that entered inside of him and gave him great pain before finally killing him. 

We live now 2,000 years later in a modern world with all sorts of items that were unimaginable a generation ago. And yet, this tiny virus has overturned this whole complex world from one end to the other in just a few days. It is essential to contemplate that just as this virus cannot be seen by our eyes and yet it has the power to transform the whole world, so too the Almighty is not seen but runs the entire world.  And who knows what plans Hashem has for these tiny creatures to yet accomplish. But clearly, only the Almighty could be behind such a powerful tiny creature.

We should realize that just as we do not see the virus, we also do not see the Hand of Hashem behind all this. However, just as with the right instruments one can see the virus, with the right “instruments” you can also “see” the Almighty, as is hinted in the very last words of the Torah, that it was given "to the eyes of all Israel". Those instruments can be accessed – as is mentioned in many works and throughout Chassidic literature – through a deep connection to Torah….

It is forbidden to say about anything – certainly about something so major – that it is just a random event. We must attempt to ponder: Why did Hashem bring this upon us? 

Some think they are able to find causes and assign blame. However, the teaching I received from my sainted father זיע"א – which is one of the fundamental teachings of Chassidut – is that we are not to look at the deficiencies of others.

It is not the desecration of Shabbos that is to blame – nor any other sin that other people may have transgressed. We must especially refrain from finding fault during a time when we are supposed to awaken Heavenly mercy. G-d forbid, we should not arouse negative judgment against the Jewish people. We should only speak in their defense.

Instead, at such a time, everyone should look at himself: What can I improve about myself and my Avodah for me and all of Klal Yisrael? Let them look at where they can improve in Torah, Tefillah, and, most of all, in the way they treat other people.

People are frightened and stressed, and naturally, they feel pressured and may tend to lose patience at home and outside. In this situation, when the children are at home – everyone is at home – (along with the pressure of Pesach and all its preparations, which yields its own stresses) the primary behavior that we must accept upon ourselves is to be joyful and filled with Simcha. To exude calm, to be peaceful with the children, to spend time with the children – the boys and the girls – even more than usual.

I must state – and this is the primary message I want to get across – that although righteous women have been accustomed to devoting all their energy to preparing the house for Passover, this year must be different. I have a tradition that I received many times from my sainted father זצ"ל, that Pesach was not intended for making the house new once again or to do “spring cleaning” of all kinds of dirt that may have accumulated.


It is our duty – that of parents and righteous women – to ensure calm in the home. Pesach will be kosher with doing less. Do as much as you can calmly with no stress – and nothing more.

What is required for Pesach is only removing chametz, and according to halacha, nullification [i.e., Kol Chamira] is sufficient. In fact, my father recounted that in the home of his grandfather – the Bnei Yissachar – they would clean the house on the night before Pesach as they searched for chametz, and that was the primary “Pesach cleaning.”

Furthermore, my father himself instructed his children when they had small children of their own to take care of that the mothers shouldn’t go beyond the basic obligation of cleaning at the expense of caring for the children and should not turn the house over to make it clean.

The evil inclination is ready to bring into your home pressure, stress, and irritation about the children – and to cause tension between husband and wife – trying to convince them that “this is necessary in order to make Pesach.” One needs to know that one point of anger – one moment of stress – is far worse than having chametz in the home!

It is our duty – that of parents and righteous women – to ensure calm in the home. Pesach will be kosher with doing less. Do as much as you can calmly with no stress – and nothing more. Place far more focus on the mitzvah of “You shall tell your son.” Make sure the children grow positively in their spiritual and material needs. Be careful that they come to no harm during these weeks….

What is wanted from us now from heaven – and Jews just want to do the will of God – is for our homes to be islands of calm and happiness. G-d is leading in the way that – in His Infinite Wisdom  – is what is needed now; let us gladly accept His will with joy and without any angry fights and shouting.

Let us maintain calm and avoid aggravation and not be stringent when it is not necessary, while at the same time not be lenient with what is truly forbidden.

Of course, it is important not to transgress the prohibition against Bitul Torah and one should use their learning time productively. Still, most of the learning should be with the children – as the Torah states, “And you shall teach it to your sons.”… Prepare them for Pesach. 

Let us yearn to bring – even this year – the Korban Pesach. If one can, one should study the halachot of Korban Pesach. But what is most important is to engage in Chessed – to do what we can to help others. At times like this, when many homes are having difficulties, it is up to us to help with whatever possible. Older girls can help neighbors or the elderly….

My message to children and young men is to be very careful – especially in these days when the challenge is greater – to respect their parents, which is such an essential Torah command…. 

Unfortunately, there are many who are ill, and if the illness can be prevented from spreading by adhering to the government guidelines, they should not be underestimated. The dictum of the Torah “You shall be very protective of your life” has no limit. We desecrate Shabbos and Yom Kippur even if there is a small chance that life may be in danger. And it is even more important to be careful to avoid harming others than to avoid harming oneself….

Of course, one should add a few chapters of Tehillim to one’s prayers and ask of G-d "אָבִינוּ מַלְכֵּנוּ מְנַע מַגֵּפָה מִנַּחֲלָתֶךָ" Our Father, Our King, prevent a plague from your heritage nation. As I think of this prayer, I note that the prayer is not מְנַע מַגֵּפָה, “Prevent a plague”, but rather, "מְנַע מַגֵּפָה מִנַּחֲלָתֶךָ". Perhaps the reason for this is that it is known that a plague will come before the coming of the Mashiach, but we are asking that it not unduly affect Am Yisrael.

We should endeavor to instill in our sons and daughters deep confidence in Hashem, as Hashem is the Protector of Israel. Encourage and embolden them; help them appreciate the concept of doing kindness with others, both spiritually and physically.

If we do this, may we merit complete salvation – כִּי בְשִׂמְחָה תֵצֵאוּ וּבְשָׁלוֹם תּוּבָלוּן “with joy you will you come out and with peace will you bring” – speedily in our days.

Appeared in Jewish Press, March 27, 2020

Thursday, March 19, 2020

This year in Jerusalem, but not for everyone

There sure has been a VeNehafoch Hu since Purim. . . the world that we are living seems to be totally changed and turned over – but it is hard to see how it is for the better.  Coronavirus has had a devastating worldwide impact, and according to many scientists and epidemiologists, we ain't see nothing yet. Some have dire predictions of millions dying, industries collapsing, and health care systems being overwhelmed with no end in sight – and there are reminders of the devastation that the Spanish flu caused just about a century ago.  Just about everyone knows someone (or knows someone who knows someone – חברא דחברא) who has tested positive for the virus, which so far has no vaccine, although the mortality rate is "only" about 3-4 percent.  It is hard to remember that we are still in the month of Adar.

For me personally, Baruch Hashem, no one in my family or immediate circle of friends has become ill.  But my investments have been devastated, many of my neighbors are in full quarantine and the whole country is required to stay home unless absolutely necessary to leave – I have not left the house for four days now. My son's plan for visiting Israel for Pesach has been canceled along with the plans of countless thousands of others who are unable to travel.  Much of my work has been canceled, most of my plans for activities in the immediate future are tenuous at best, and life feels quite unsettled.




In Israel, in general, the government has acted very aggressively.  All non-vital businesses are closed, all schools shuttered, no wedding parties allowed, restaurants and public entertainment closed, no more than ten people may congregate (I assume that someone insisted that we still be allowed to have bare minyanim, although most shuls are closed). As of this writing public transportation is still running, but everyone must sit six feet apart – no one may sit near the driver.   Ben Gurion Airport is virtually shut down, no non-citizens may enter.  Given that I am finishing a course to become a licensed tour guide in Israel, my dear friend and well-known tour guide Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz (whose business has ground to a halt) quipped to me, "You know how Ibn Ezra said if he became a gravedigger people would stop dying... here's a new one -- if Rabbi Oppenheimer becomes a tour guide people will stop touring... thanks a lot for all of this..."

There is undoubtedly plenty of doom and gloom.  But as we are looking at this time of Adar as a time of joy, and moreover, we are looking forward to Pesach as a time of freedom and escape from terrors past, it is important to find the positive in this crisis for humanity throughout the world.  One beautiful perspective that I saw in Hebrew several times (but not in English) was circulated by the well-known Torah teacher and journalist Sivan Rahav-Meir, quoting Hani Lifshitz, a Chabad emissary in Kathmandu, Nepal:


"All of a sudden, we are required to think deep and hard: where were we? What route did we take? Who are the people who have been in our area? Were we in contact with them? How long were we next to those people? Do we remember other people who were near us, with whom we might have had even a trifling contact and where that was?  Did we shake their hand? Embrace?  Did we sit in close proximity with them??
With a hand on our heart, how many of us stop to think about these things when there is no Coronavirus? The days rush by, but suddenly, we must stop. We have to think of how critical it is to remember every detail of our interactions with the people who pass through our lives – how important each encounter is and how nothing is random. How each of those encounters can really affect our lives, with potential real long-term significant effects. Let us not for a moment think that the encounter with those who came our way is unimportant and fleeting. In fact, those brief encounters can penetrate deep into the soul, take root in the soul, and can change our lives from one end to the other, for better or worse. And that effect can infect, the next person, who in turn can affect a third, and their circle of people, and so on, for better, on [heaven forfend] for worse.
That is how this world works; we are interdependent. The impact of every action rolls from one end of the world to the other.
Furthermore, some will need isolation – time to be with themselves, shut out from the rest of the world – a time for introspection, for thought, far from all others. I am sure that when one emerges from there, they will have a new perspective on the potential energy there is in encounters between two people.

Another perspective that has been much shared is from Rabbi Moss of Australia, who challenged us not to be afraid of the uncertainty that we are faced with, but rather, to embrace it.  As he put it:


What will happen next? We don't know. Our experts don't know. Our leaders don't know. Only G-d knows. And that is the point. Only G-d knows.
Close your eyes and feel the uncertainty, make peace with it, let yourself be taken by it. Embrace your cluelessness. Because in all the confusion there is one thing you know for sure. You are in G-d's hands. Keep calm. Panic and fear are also contagious. Take every precaution as advised by health authorities. Wash your hands well. And every time you do, remember whose hands you are in.

Many other perspectives abound – one of them that speaks to me deeply is that for so many this year, “Next Year in Jerusalem” seems to be taking on a whole new dose of reality.  With many privileged people forced to make Pesach at home, perhaps for the first time in their lives, and with the doors to Eretz Yisrael closed for those who have not already moved here, perhaps more thought will be devoted to the illusory nature of our comfortable lives in the Diaspora, and whether we have reacted properly to Hashem’s incredible gift to us – up until now – of the welcome opportunity to live in Eretz Yisrael.

Ultimately, as we had ample opportunity to reflect during the Torah reading of this past Shabbat Ki Tisa, we have to recognize human limits.  Even the greatest of humans, Moshe Rabbeinu, was told that Man is not privy to G-d’s plans, and we have to learn to trust that He knows – far better than we could imagine – why that which we experience as painful is, in fact, for the ultimate good. 

Let us resolve that going through this experience will end up sobering us (important after Purim) to the reality of how little is in our control, how much we depend on each other, and how fragile our existence is.  Perhaps this is the harbinger of the Geula, some have pointed out that the Gematria of קרונה is 361, which is the gematria of משיח בא. We look forward to Pesach with deep prayer that Hashem once again save us from plagues and natural disasters, and that the gates of Eretz Yisrael will swing wide open for all of us to come home in good physical, spiritual and financial health, speedily on our days.

Appeared in the Jewish Press March 20, 2020